The Pain of Being a Single Christian
Singleness can feel like a drought. Especially when everyone around you seems to be moving on. Relationships, weddings, babies and children. It can seem like everyone is moving up and on with their lives, except for you. This goes double for a single Christian.
As a single Christian, you tend to look around and question. Why are things going so well for the sinners? I’m walking faithfully with the Lord, waiting prayerfully for your person, keeping myself for the one that God has called me for, and yet you can find yourself wondering, “Lord, how long must I wait?” If you’ve ever cried yourself to sleep at night, felt uneasy, unseen or forgotten, know that you’re not alone and you are not forsaken. God is still with you.
The Pain of Being a Single Christian – Loneliness
Even in your loneliness, God sees you. One of the deepest aches of singleness is the feeling of loneliness. Thoughts dwell in your mind ‘Everyone else is being chosen except me’, ‘Is it me?’ ‘Why won’t anyone choose me?’ but remember Scripture says.
“Then she called the name of the Lors who spoke to her, “You are the God Who Sees.” for she said, “Have I not even here (in the wilderness) remained alive after seeing Him (who sees me with understanding and compassion? Genesis 16:13 AMP
God saw Hagar (who by all accounts was an adulterer) in the wilderness, He sees you in your longing. Not a tear has fallen that He hasn’t noticed. You are not forgotten. You are known and fully loved if not by anyone definitely by God, right now, in this moment, exactly as you are.
The Pain of Bien a Single Christin – Greif
At this time periods, of sadness and grief are expected. Many Christians feel guilty for mourning singleness as if it’s a lack of faith. But is not that you aren’t going with or even questioning God’s plan. But that you are feeling the emotions he gave to you. Remember even “Jesus Wept” (John 11:35), granted for different circumstances. But it is okay to acknowledge the ache, the hurt, the emptiness. Remember man was not made to be alone. That’s why God gave Eve to Adam. A longing for companionship, for intimacy, for shared spiritual growth. It’s all-natural. Just bring those emotions to God, don’t hide them.
“Trust (confidently) in Him at all times, O people; Pour out your heart before him; God is a refuge for us.” Psalm 62:8 AMP
Your pain is valid. But so is your purpose.
The Pain of Being a Single Christian – Punishment
Yes, God sees you but maybe He hasn’t answered you. Don’t shun yourself. Don’t make that mistake of taking silence and turning it to shame. Your singleness is not a result of “not being good enough.” The Bible shatters that lie.
“For the LORD God is a sun and shield; The LORD bestows grace and favor and honor; No good thing does he withhold from those who walk uprightly.” Psalm 84:11 AMP
You are not being punished. God is not withholding a blessing. He is working in ways you can’t yet see, aligning timing, shaping character, and making you into who He needs you to be. Protecting you from relationships that would distract from your calling. Don’t rush, trust God’s timing, if you don’t you may trip, fall, and stubble.
The Pain of Being a Singel Christian – The Purpose
While the wait feels long, heavy, and maybe at times even a burden. Your singleness is not wasted. You are free to serve, explore, heal, and grow in unique ways. The Apostle Paul didn’t just tolerate singleness, he celebrated it as a gift. I know that may not be what you want to hear but it’s the truth!
“But I want you to be free from concern. The unmarried man is concerned about the things of the Lord, how he can please the Lord; but the married man is concerned about worldly things, how he may please his wife and his interests are divided.” –1 Corinthians 7:32 AMP
This season isn’t just about waiting for “the one.” It’s about becoming a whole, healed, and holy vessel for God’s glory. Spend time with God. Increase your relationship with Him. Get to know Him better. Before your interest and time are divided.
The Pain of Being a Single Christian – Timing
You may feel behind in life. You may wonder if you missed your chance. But God’s promises are not bound by your age, your timeline, or even your wants if you are truly living in His purpose for your life.
“He has made everything beautiful and appropriate in its time. He has also planted eternity (a sense of diving purpose) in the human heart (a mysterious longing which nothing under the sun can satisfy, except God) yet man cannot find out (comprehend, grasp) what God has done (His overall plan) from the beginning to the end.” – Ecclesiastes 3:11
If God has placed the desire for marriage in your heart, trust that He will fulfill it in His perfect way. And if His plan for you looks different, trust that His version of your life will always be better than anything you could come up with for yourself.
Encouragement
To every single Christian hurting; Read with Understanding!
Your singleness does not define you, and your relationship status is not your identity. You are complete in Christ! You are worthy of love; you are held by the God who writes the best love stories, including yours.
So keep holding on. Keep showing up. Keep praying boldly, loving deeply, and serving faithfully. The wait may be long, but the One you’re waiting on is faithful. Here is a 5 day devotional to help encourage you this week.
“The Lord is good to those who wait (confidently) for him, to those who seek Him (on the authority of God’s Word).” Lamentations 3:25 AMP